Fear Busters! Part 1: Thank You!

THANK YOU!

How does that make you feel when you say those two words? How do you feel when those words are expressed to you?

Makes you feel pretty darn good … doesn’t it? 

Thank You!  Two of the loveliest words in the human language.

A few years ago, my youngest children had asked me why I say thank you to the bus driver when I get off.  My reply?  "That person provided a much needed service, they did a great job, and I really appreciate them being there for me. Those drivers put up with a lot during their shift, and I believe they could use a dose of appreciation.  They need to know.  And I need to do it!"

It was a simple explanation, but one that came from the heart.  As a result, when my children step off the bus, they say Thank You!  They discovered how good it made them feel.  But they soon found out  that showing appreciation had its other rewards.  The drivers remembered their appreciation and in turn, will stop and wait for my kids or let them on whenever they don’t have the exact change. My children know the bus drivers don’t do that for everyone!   It was a lesson in cause & effect for my kids. 

The whole idea of saying thank you is to encourage and perpetuate a positive flow of energy.  While it may not always be reciprocated right away, saying “Thank You”  leaves an impression on others whether you know it or not!  

You never know who is watching.  And you never know who is benefiting from your act of gratitude.  And too, you just never know when that energy of gratitude is going to come back on you.  And trust me when I say … it always does!  In some way, in some form … that what you put out always returns to you! 

As human experiencers, we tend to focus only on the bad in life.  When we lend focus to that energy, we attract it, increase it and perpetuate it.  This is not to say we ignore the negative or pretend it doesn’t exist.  No.  But instead of focusing on it’s very existence, why not focus on what we are learning from it?  And once we discover that lesson, show a little gratitude for bringing it to our attention?

What do you think would happen if you stop and see the  lessons being brought to your life?  What do you think would happen if you show gratitude for these lessons?

When we live in gratitude we raise our vibrations  and strengthen our connection to our True Selves.  In turn, this energy flows out and connects to others increasing their own expanded awareness.    As this occurs, fear begins to dissipate.  It’s hold over us begins to loosen and fall away.

Saying Thank You is one small way of joining in and actively creating the change we wish to see in the world.

For one week, practice saying THANK YOU to all you come in contact with.  See for yourself the difference it makes for you and the world!

To Be Continued.









About Julia K. Cole

What can you expect from someone who considers Putting Reality Back Into Spirituality a personal calling? Straight forward answers that lead to life-changing experiences on a soul level!

Known as The Empress of the Known & Unknown Universes™, Julia brings enlightenment and inspiration around the globe by providing spiritual guidance to those seeking a deeper understanding.

In her personal empowerment consultations, Julia provides in-depth advice, teaches you to tap into your own inner-strength and provides tools to enable you to live a more fulfilling and joyful life.

As a psychic medium, Julia brings healing and comfort by serving as a liaison between those here in the physical realm and those who have crossed over into the spiritual planes of existence.

Julia's weekly radio talk show Namaste Beloved!™ can be heard on Blog Talk Radio every Friday evening starting at 9 p.m. Eastern Time.

Persistence

 "Persistence my daughter, means never giving in.  Even when you are faced with great odds,  you must continue on.  Even when you feel you can go no further, you must find that last ounce of strength and push forward!  It is the only way daughter.  It is the only way you can ever hope to succeed!"  Grandmother to The Oracle, Children of the Luminaries~Book III: The Day of Reckoning



Persistence is one of the keys to success.    No matter what you are doing or setting out to do ... it is persistence that takes you down the road to success!  In fact --it is persistence that brings you right to success' door!

The Squeaky Wheel Gets The Oil!

This is the mantra of persistence!  While many hold persistence in the same light as annoyance ... the truth of the matter is ... without it we would literally be in the dark!

It was persistence that brought us our many luxuries and necessities.    It was persistence that gave women the right to vote and not be subjected to sexual harassment in the work place.   It was persistence that brought about religious freedoms in not only the United States, but in many other countries as well.  It was persistence that freed the slaves and brought about the civil rights movement.  And the list goes on and on to infinity!


Persistence Thy Name is  ...
 
The one thing we have learned about fear is Persistence is it's greatest tool.  So we have to be even more persistent to work with and through them. 

It takes little to no effort to just give up and give in.   It is very easy to find and/or create a distraction that will prevent us from persisting.  We will come up against people who will make every attempt to stop us from proceeding forward.    We have created many obstacles to over come in our pursuit of persistence.  

As Antari always says ... "You created it!  If you don't like it, then uncreate it!"

Being persistent --It isn't easy.  No one said it would be!    It's hard work!  

There are days when I just want to quit!  And some days -- that's exactly what I do!  I just Quit!  I don't do anything!   That's when I usually get a telephone call from one of my friends who remind me of the advice I have given them during their moments of giving up.  oy!  Nothing like having your words thrown back in your face to get you going again, eh?  

Having a circle of trusted friends is perhaps one of your greatest assets in working through any challenge.   Knowing you have someone to turn to keeps you going!  I should know, I have some of the most wonderful friends in my circle.  They are made up of some of the strongest, wisest and most gifted & talented men and women in this 3-Dimensional Realm!  And of course, I have my spirit companion Antari to keep me on the "straight & narrow"! 



A good strong support system is essential to your life.    Be they a spouse, girl/boy friend, best friend,  a spiritual adviser, life coach, therapy group, 12 step program, or a small circle of friends and family members ... having at least one other person in your life is important in staying on track and being persistent!


It isn't easy!  No one said it would be!  But the effort, time and energy you put forward will reap great rewards!  But don't take my word for it!  Try it for your Self!  

Five Minutes a day ... Each & Every Day Say NO To Your Fears!  

Be Persistent!

About Julia K. Cole

What can you expect from someone who considers Putting Reality Back Into Spirituality a personal calling? Straight forward answers that lead to life-changing experiences on a soul level!

Known as The Empress of the Known & Unknown Universes™, Julia brings enlightenment and inspiration around the globe by providing spiritual guidance to those seeking a deeper understanding. In her person empowerment consultations, Julia provides in-depth advice, teaches you to tap into your own inner-strength and provides tools to enable you to live a more fulfilling and joyful life. As a psychic medium, Julia brings healing and comfort by serving as a liaison between those here in the physical realm and those who have crossed over into the spiritual planes of existence.

Julia's weekly radio talk show Namaste Beloved!™ can be heard on Blog Talk Radio every Friday evening starting at 9 p.m. Eastern Time.

Personal Notes

In the beginning, I was vaguely aware of the impact working the Say NO to Fear challenge would have on not only me, but those around me.   Don't get me wrong.  I went in knowing that everything I was afraid of (even those fears I had long forgotten) would come up over and over again.   And I was fully aware that I would not only fall down, but would get knocked down at every turn.  In short,  I knew I had a fight on my hands.

It's not like I just started doing all this  self work five minutes ago.   Let's face facts here.  I've been around the block a few times in this respect.  Studying, researching, meditating, etc.  been doing it for years.   Not only that, I have been providing spiritual counseling and psychic readings for what seems like forever. But even so, I was completely shocked by the results of working this challenge.  And yes, I still have a long, long, long, LONG way to go!


2009 --  Change Cometh


In the beginning, I didn't notice any real changes  at first.  In fact, with everything that was going on in my life I was literally on the verge of just giving up.   I kept thinking ... "who in the hell am I fooling? This shit doesn't work!"    However, something inside of me whispered-- Keep going.  Persistence is the key!  that little voice kept saying.  And so I did.  I just kept going!

It wore me out dealing with every fear I had or ever had.  All of it just kept coming to the surface, pummeling me with their words and feelings.   Each syllable just as hateful, hurtful and downright nasty in my mind as they were when first inititated.   Voices from the past kept repeating their rhetoric in my head leaving me in in constant doubt.  Ah! Doubt my ever present, dutiful and faithful companion during this initial process.  oy!

As if that weren't enough ... my entire home life was falling apart.   It was a frickin' nightmare!  There were times when I half expected Freddy Krueger to show up!  I kid you not!  It was that bad!

October 2009 was the turning point for me.    It was a month of intense challenges, as my family began  falling apart at a rapid pace.  My oldest son found himself in the midst of a nasty custody battle of his infant daughter (born on October 1).  His then girlfriend decided she didn't want the baby nor did she want him to have it, so she handed the baby over to the state.  It's been a living hell for all of us.  As his mother, I have had to stand back and out of the way. I never felt so helpless in all my life.

On October 12th, I fell in the bathroom sustaining three broken ribs, a fractured hip and bruised kidney.  Two days later I get a telephone call from an acquaintance who provided an unsolicited assessment as to why my family was having these problems and why I fell.  Her reasons?  Everything that happened was all due to my being arrogant, obnoxious and a know it all.  *sigh*  Of course it was! 

These were only some of the things that transpired during this time.  Let's just say ... October 2009 is a time I will not soon forget!

Now why did I bring this all up?  Three reasons.

One, it was during this time I put into practice of minding my own business.  As a parent, we tend to believe/think that we know more than our children.  That we can fix their problems.  It's an occupational hazard!

My oldest son knows I am here for him, that I will do all I know and all that is within my power to help in any way.  But I know, as does he, that the best thing I can do for him is to get out of his way and allow him to work through the process in his own way.

It wasn't easy.  It still isn't.  But I am practicing of allowing.  oy!

The second reason, we all came in with a chart--an outline--of what we would experience during our journey as humans.     This includes all of us!  As a parent, we tend to forget that our children have these charts as well.  They, like us, came in with the intent of learning through experiences.

Appreciating the lessons of another isn't always easy.  Especially, and in particularly, when it comes to one's own children.    Honoring the paths of others is what I came to remember, to know and to practice.  Not easy!  No one said it would be! 

The third reason, I learned to slow down, to pay attention, to listen.  (That fall really slowed me down ... let me tell ya!  oy!) I was reminded  to look beyond my feelings and see the message and the opportunities it brings for continued expanded awareness. 


Again, I already knew alot of this stuff.  But it wasn't until October when I really began to understand on a soul level.

But it didn't stop there.  Oh no!  Little did I know at that particular time, my expanded awareness was on the verge of getting a profound tweaking!

On Friday, November 6th my beloved fur baby Zaffis da'Cat was brutally and viciously killed.   (Zaffis da'Cat was named in honor of my cherished friend John Zaffis).  Zaffis was born on November 8, 2005.  I was present when that beautiful soul came into this world.  I was there when he took his last breath.


To make a rather long and painful story short, the person involved in the killing of not only my fur baby, but countless others, has been brought to justice.    Unfortunately Rodger, the dog this individual used to do all the killing, a beautiful pit bull, was put down on November 9, 2010.

Was I angry?  You bet I was!  I don't ever remember feeling so much hatred for one person.    Did I want revenge?  You bet I did!  I wanted this person to feel everything that Zaffis did as he fought for his life.  I wanted this boy, this thug wanna be, to feel every thing ... all the pain, all the fear, all the horror that not only Zaffis had felt ... but all those precious animals he slaughtered.  I wanted him to feel the anguish I and my family experienced, the anguish of all those people whose pets he had killed.  I wanted him to feel the pain & fear of Rodger the pit bull as well.   I wanted this person to feel it all ... and then some!  I wanted him to feel it all as people stood around and laughed.  Just as he had laughed when my baby was fighting for his life.  That is what I wanted!  That is all I wanted ... more than anything.  For him to feel.  To know first hand the pain we all experienced.  I just wanted him to feel it!  To know it!

I just wanted this person to FEEL.  To feel ... to reconnect to his humanity ... and come into an understanding.  But what I got instead was my own  sense of understanding on a soul level.  It wasn't easy.  No one said it would be.   I fought this feeling as it began washing over me in waves.    As it did, an unimaginable calm filled me.

In the calmness, I began to understand.  What was perceived as a needless, reckless and utterly useless act was in fact a lesson in forgiveness.  If the sacrifices of Zaffis, Rodger and all those other animals were to mean anything ... anything at all ...  I had to make a choice. 

Would I succumb to the perpetuation of fear, hatred and needless acts of violence just for a few moments of personal gratification?  Or would I practice the art of forgiveness and seek justice in a more peaceful manner?

I think you already know the answer to those questions.

The choice I made sent out a message to the rest of the neighborhood.  And that message was ... if we are to see any positive changes in the world ... we must first BE that change!  And so it was ... and so it is!

And no my friends ... it wasn't easy.  Even now as I sit here typing this out, I am crying.  I'm still working on letting go of that pain.  And I know ... in time ... I will.  Their sacrifice will not be in vain.    I will continue to rise above my own fears.  You bet I will!

The death of Zaffis da'Cat and Rodger the Pit Bull brought me into an even greater expansion of awareness.  I was able to see where I needed to make some rather important adjustments.  There were apologies to be made ... and I have made them.   My resolve to continue  my reconnection of my True Self, to continue shedding the old ways, to face my own fears and just say NO has been strengthen beyond measure.

The gratitude I feel for these two courageous souls cannot be expressed by mere words.

I know where they are ... there is no more fear of being hurt.  I have seen them both, running side by side playing, jumping in huge piles of leaves, enjoying their peace.  They are joined by all the other animals who have returned Home.  It is most assuredly a Blessed Reunion of Souls.  A beautiful sight to behold.   In that moment as they become aware of my presence, Zaffis gives out an aaaack (he couldn't meow) to let me know he sees me.  He sticks out his tongue and then scurries off to chase a butterfly.

A sense of Peace fills me.  I know he and all the others are safe now. 

Concluding Comments

I can only  imagine the changes that occur in 2010 will be even more significant.  But I can say with confidence ... I'm off to a good start!


Be sure to tune in to my my show, Namaste Beloved!™  (air date January 15, 2010, 9-11 p.m. Eastern) as I go into further detail of my personal story in working the Say NO To Fear challenge.

Take the Challenge!  Say NO! To Your Fears!  

I mean ... what do you have to lose?

About Julia K. Cole

What can you expect from someone who considers Putting Reality Back Into Spirituality a personal calling? Straight forward answers that lead to life-changing experiences on a soul level!

Known as The Empress of the Known & Unknown Universes™, Julia brings enlightenment and inspiration around the globe by providing spiritual guidance to those seeking a deeper understanding.

 

Being The Change In 2010

Well, another year has come and gone.  And what a year it has been, eh?   Is it me or does it seem that time is just speeding by like a bullet?  Appears that way, doesn't it?

As with every year, we said good-bye to those we knew and loved in some way, on some level,  while welcoming in new friends and family members, reuniting with lost loves, reconnecting with those we had lost touch with and so on.

For me 2009 was a year of intense awakening.  While I have been on this path of awakening for what seems like eons, it was 2009 that brought about the spiritual caffeine that really jolted me into a more awakened state.   However, I wish to state that my personal expansion in conscious awareness during 2009 was different some how.  It was definitely unlike anything I had experienced in the past.

To make a rather long story short, I made some rather intense changes within myself.   I faced my worst night mares ... My SELF!  And thankfully,  have lived to tell the tale!   

Though I had always known that our thoughts become manifested ... I had not really taken into consideration the depths in which these thoughts could materialized!  And have been for eons!  oy vey!  What a predicament.  As we all know, and in truth, nothing is outside ourselves ... it all comes from within us.  This was something I always knew intellectually.  But to actually experience it?  Yea, pretty darn eye-opening ... to say the least!

Delving deep within isn't something to be taken lightly.  I won't lie to you ... It's not easy--no one said it would be.  But I can tell you from personal experience, it has been worth the effort.   To actually face your fears, to acknowledge all the mistakes you have made (ever made), to take responsibility for all the nonsense that has been mirrored back to you, then  to forgive yourself ... to love yourself ... is very intense. 

It takes a great deal of courage and strength to really look deep within yourself.  It takes even greater courage and strength to  literally acknowledge all that you are, have been and continue to be, then taking it a few steps further by taking responsibility, by accepting and Loving all that makes up your Self.  It's scary as hell!  But I did it!   And yes, I will continue to do it.  I am, after all, a work in progress--a labor of Love!

To Love One's Self is the greatest Love of All.  Why?  Again, nothing truly happens outside ourselves without first taking place within ourselves.   If we do not truly love ourselves unconditionally...then how can we ever hope for anyone else to love us in this manner?

So what do I take into 2010? Just one thing ...   Acceptance.   Accepting responsibility for every thought I think, accepting the responsibility for what these thoughts manifest, accepting the forgiveness for those thoughts and the actions it brings about, acknowledging the divine in others who come into my life, accepting gratitude by showing gratitude, and most importantly ... accepting the Love that I am.

So how did all this acceptance come about?  It all started when I was reintroduce to this healing method the beginning of 2009.   But it wasn't until it came up again and again over the last few months  that I actually gave it a go.  And trust me when I say, I resisted it with every fiber of my being.  However, I came to the conclusion that it was something I needed.  I mean, why else would it keep popping up?  Yea,  that Self of mine is a sneaky little hussy ... ain't she?

Ho'oponopono

Ho'oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness.   Loosely translated, Ho‘oponopono means to set things right.  The basic concept behind Ho‘oponopono  is that you  realize the immutable fact that your entire existence comes from within, not from outside of yourself.

I know from my own personal experience that once you truly grasp and get your head around the fact that you are creating, and we are talking literally creating,  every single aspect of your existence – from the smallest molecule up through the tallest building, from the most heart-felt Love to the most passionate hatred – then you realize that you can effect change over all of it! Why?  Because you know you  are responsible for them being there in the first place!

How is all of this done via Ho‘oponopono? By simply accepting responsibility and showing gratitude.   Being the skeptic I am, I really didn't think it would work all that well.  But I figured I had nothing to lose at this point.  So I tried it.  I'm daring that way! I made a list of all the people who stood out.  I then listed all the qualities that annoyed me the most.  Wanna talk long list?  I then began seeing a pattern.  All those qualities on that list that bothered me  were the same attributes I possessed.  I only have three words to say at this point ... pot, kettle--black!

Armed with the necessary tools, I went about to first take responsibility for those attributes that had been mirrored back to me.  I was responsible ... no getting around it.  Next, I set out to ask forgiveness.  Finally, I expressed my gratitude and my Love for each person involved.  

My results?  Inner Peace & Contentment.  I really won't know how it affected everyone on my list until I get some kind of physical validation.    And even if I don't ever get that validation, I still feel good about what I have done.  I mean, it was all about ME anyways ... now wasn't it?

I hope you will join me in 2010 as I set out to consciously work Ho'oponopono each and every day.  It's all part of the on-going challenge I initiated on January 1, 2008.  It's one of the best methods I have worked thus far.  And besides,  what better way to work the Say NO To Fear challenge than to face yourself and work from within, eh? 

Be the Change You Wish To See In The World ~ Ghandi

And so it is!

I take responsibility for what is reflected back to me.  I'm sorry, please forgive me, I love you!  I Love You!  I Love You!

I am sorry that I didn't accept the lesson when it was presented to me through you.  Please forgive me for not appreciating you in that moment. I'm sorry!  I Love You! I Love You! I Love You!

I am sorry for not showing you the respect you deserved and continue to  deserve.  I'm sorry, please forgive me.  I Love You!  I Love You!  I Love You!    

I acknowledge and I  appreciate your bravery, your wisdom and most of all  ... the Love you have and always had for me by reflecting back to me in order for Me to Learn and Grow!  I'm sorry for not accepting all of these gifts when you presented them to me.  I'm Sorry!  Please Forgive Me!  I Love You!  I Love You!  I Love You!

I take responsibility for all the anger and hatred shown to me.  I now see how it projected out to you ... to the world we live in.   I'm sorry, please forgive me. I Love You!  I Love You!  I Love You!

I LOVE YOU!

Source: 

http://www.drcat.org/articles_interviews/html/hotfudge.html

http://hooponopono.org/Articles/self_i-dentity.html

http://hooponopono.org/Articles/theres_got_to_be.html

Louise L. Hay

The Tree of Love

I wanted to start off the new year with this blog.

The following is a message I received during one of my daily meditations.   It is in answer to one of the questions I posed ... where does fear come from?

As a psychic medium, I am accustomed  to being visited by spirits of all walks of life--past, present, and yes, future.  I am always pleasantly surprised when I am visited by the spirits of people I've only heard about.   Like the numerous others who have visited me over the years, I only knew of him.  I never really bothered to read up on him or learn of his work in any manner.  In fact,  I had first heard of him in 2006 when I first met Vaishali.

In human life, he had been an 18th Century Swedish Scientist, Philosopher and Spiritual Explorer, who at the age of 56,  had a spiritual awakening and wrote numerous books on his theological views and related topics.  His name of course is Emanuel Swedenborg.

I had felt his presence in times past, usually when I was talking with Vaishali, but never really paid that much attention.  In truth, I ignored him.  I wasn't ready to hear anything he had to say, so I just chose to pretend I couldn't see or hear him.

The week before I was presented the answer to my question,  I felt Emanuel's energies filter through my room.  I could tell from the way these energies were intensifying, I would not be in any position to  ignore him as I had in times past.   Any well seasoned medium will tell you, whenever a spirit insist on being acknowledged they have something extremely important to convey.  And seeing I needed clarity  I thought what the hell ... I'll give it a go!


So I asked him ... Where does fear come from?


He explained to me in detail that everything comes from one energy ... an energy we human experiencers call Love.  "In our true forms," he told me,  "we have another name for it,  but it doesn't translate over into human language, so while we are in physical form the word Love is used in it's place."  The actual word for this energy is so complex that he had to write it out for me.  Upon seeing it in writing I came  to understand why we use that four letter word.  Trust me when I say, it's a humdinger!

Emanuel explained that Love is the only energy capable of creating in such massive proportions.  He pointed out how this energy expresses itself in infinite ways.  I found this utterly ridiculous ... at first.   So to prove his point,  Emanuel showed me a tree that seem to go on forever.     He pointed at the base of the tree which was incredible!  It was bigger than a city.  Literally! 


He told me ... "this tree you see here represents Love."    He further went on to say:   "Each of the  branches you see on this tree contributes to the splendid collaboration of what you  see.  Without the branches, the tree would not  be complete. "

"Keep in mind that each branch is an expression of the tree, but not the tree itself.   All the branches make up the wondrous creation you see here.  Note that even the branches have smaller extensions of itself.  See how each stretch out and express upon itself.  Beautiful is it not?  As you can see, all aspects of the tree work in harmony to provide comfort and beauty to all those who come in contact with it.  As it is with the tree, so it is with you."

"Like this tree, you too have infinite expressions.  Your base ... your trunk if you will ... is always Love.    There is no separation from this.  If that were true, then you would have no branches.  Whatever it is you are expressing, be it anger, hatred, jealously or any type of fear, you are coming from that one particular aspect of the one energy ... Love.  Love, is the energy of creation, there is no separation ... only expression."

How can this be?

"Love expresses itself in this vast manner for the soul to experience the variations of Creator energy.  It is why you took on physical form, it is why you chose the challenges you have in this life and all the others before this.  Without physical experience of those expressions, you would not come into full understanding of what Love is.  What it truly is."

So when I am experiencing fear, I am sitting on one particular branch to see what it's like?

"Yes! Yes!  That is precisely what you are doing!"

Emanuel  pointed to the lower branches that were close to the base of the tree.  "These branches represent the many aspects of fear.   See how each twig has sprouted from these branches?  These are the representation of each fear you experience.  Note how each twig slightly differs."

So when we climb up, we get a clearer view of what is transpiring?

"Absolutely! And let us not forget our roots!  The roots expand out and connect to all the other trees creating a unique and beauteous connection.  It is a connection that reaches out to all creation.  This connection creates a network."

What effects one effects all.

"Precisely!"

Looking up I couldn't see the top, but I began to be filled with an understanding.   It was an understanding that had always been there, but now was being absorbed throughout my entire being.

The tree grows up and forever, connecting us to Creators.  Our roots connects us here in the 3-Dimensional physical plane ... to all creation here.  I was more or less mumbling to myself at this point.  I saw from the corner of my eye that Emanuel was smiling.  It was then I realized I was standing in the midst of a forest so grand that even now it defies description.

"Now that you understand, share with others what you have learned."

And with that, Emanuel was gone.

*~*~*~*~*~*

When we look at a tree, we don't always notice the varying degrees of those branches.  How they sometimes twist and turn a certain way.  How they some times take on a life of their own at times.

Sometimes we just look at the tree as a whole, not taking in consideration the beautiful detailed and various independent expressions that make up that tree.   We just take for granted it is a tree with one particular purpose.

Same goes for Love itself.   Interesting isn't it?  How we are so focused on Love being one certain way we fail to notice the other aspects this energy entails.


I am left to wonder as I ponder my next question.  If we truly believe that all of creation is made up of this energy we call Love ... then why do we dismiss so much and claim so little?

Ahhh!  Now the plot really thickens!

Namaste!